Couples Therapy
Rediscover Connection
A committed relationship can be hard work with plenty of twists and turns, ups and downs. For instance, when James and Alison came to see me (actual names and details changed), they had been experiencing many more downs than ups. They sat on opposite edges of the couch not making eye contact.
“I can’t get him to understand me,” Allison said. “We’re more like roommates than husband and wife.” James remained silent, his eyes fixed on the floor. As I began to probe, it was as if an invisible wall stood between them, keeping them apart. That is until I touched on something that brought to their minds a recent argument. “I told him how stressed I was about the family coming,” Allison recalled. “And then I saw him on his phone. I just lost it.”
“You didn’t even ask what I was doing,” replied James, coming out of his silence. “You just came after me like you always do!” And with that, they are off and at eachother. Something has triggered a fight so familiar to them that it might as well be a script for a play. But this is a play they can’t seem to escape from and one with a sad ending filled with disconnection and emotional pain.
Without openness, old hurts find unhelpful ways to surface.
What is Emotionally Focused Therapy?
James and Allison aren’t the only ones stuck in negative cycles. EFT is designed to help couples discover and break negative interactions that keep conflict cycles in the center stage of a relationship. The dirty little secret of the conflict pattern that alienates couples is this; it’s easy to keep a couple fighting by keeping the spotlight solely on surface-level issues. EFT helps couples illuminate the emotions and attachment needs below the surface. Many couples seldom talk about them but how they respond to their emotions informs how they behave with their partners.
Emotionally Focused Therapy
By creating a safe and supportive environment, I help couples express their deepest feelings, repair emotional wounds, and foster a stronger connection.
Unsure About the Future of Your Relationship?
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Learn how discernment counseling can help you take the next step.
How Couples Therapy Can Help You
Improve Communication
Learn to speak and listen to each other in ways that bring you closer instead of driving you apart.
Heal Old Wounds
Understand past hurts that continue to impact your relationship. Because without openness, old hurts find unhelpful ways to surface. This can allow both of you to move forward together with compassion.
Reignite Intimacy
Rediscover the emotional and physical connection that you once enjoyed. Experience a strengthened sense of connection on all levels.
Build Lasting Change
EFT not only helps you resolve current conflicts but also equips you with the tools to handle future challenges with confidence and grace.
My Approach:
A Safe Space for Both of You
I bring warmth, empathy, and a non-judgmental approach to each session. My goal is to create a space where both partners feel heard and valued. I’m here to support you during this part of your journey, helping you find new ways to connect and build the relationship you both desire. You don’t have to read from the script the conflict pattern gives you. You can start writing a new story together.
