Discernment Counseling:
Evaluating Separation
Navigating a relationship crossroads is not easy. Deciding whether to stay in your relationship or separate is hands-down one of the toughest decisions you will ever make. One thing that makes it even tougher is you are likely in a position where one of you is leaning out of the relationship and one of you is leaning in. Discernment counseling was built for your situation. It helps couples with mixed agendas find a path forward.
You may decide to roll up your sleeves and work to repair the relationship. Or you may choose to part ways. One vital factor can have just as much impact on the days and months ahead: It is not only about what you decide but also how you both come to that decision. Discernment counseling can help you both navigate your crossroads with respect and understanding.
Certified Discernment Counselor
Certified in discernment counseling, I help couples on the brink of divorce or facing tough relationship decisions find clarity, direction, and a path forward. All sessions are held in person at my office in Wayzata, providing a focused and supportive environment for making these critical decisions.
Considering Separation?
Before making any major decisions, learn about Discernment Counseling—a unique approach designed to help couples find clarity on whether to continue their relationship or move toward separation.
Is Divorce the Answer?
If you're leaning out of your marriage, this video is for you. Even if you feel overwhelmed by the idea of working on the relationship, discernment counseling provides a safe, pressure-free space to explore your options without any expectations.
What to Expect in Sessions
Individual Time
Each partner will meet with me one-on-one to share their perspective without judgment. I will be right there with you to explore your experiences, fears, and hopes for the path ahead.
Shared Time
After our individual time, partners will come back together to discuss experiences and next steps with genuineness and respect. Regardless of what they decide, many couples find that this time of processing can bring about new insights into their relationship.
Decision Clarity
Discernment counseling is brief (1 to 5 sessions) but powerful. It’s designed to provide a more solid foundation on which couples can decide whether to work on their relationship or part ways.
Chip’s Approach:
Thoughtful, Insightful, & Supportive
Discernment counseling is a very different animal than couples counseling. Rather than foster intimacy and connection, the objective of discernment counseling is to provide clarity. In discernment counseling, you want a counselor who is experienced in providing structure, curiosity, and compassion for both partners.
I have a strong track record of helping couples navigate life’s toughest choices. I am experienced in discernment counseling where I provide a kind and thoughtful approach that honors both partner’s experiences.
In discernment counseling, the objective isn’t to assign who did wrong to whom or even to save the relationship at all costs. It is to create a balanced place where both partners feel supported. The goal is to empower couples to reach a decision with confidence and not remain stuck waiting at a crossroads.
