Videos
Red, Yellow, Green
Are you trying to figure out whether someone is good for you, or if you're ignoring signs you shouldn’t? In this video, marriage and family therapist Chip Neuenschwander walks you through the Red–Yellow–Green dating framework. It's a simple and powerful way to spot patterns early, evaluate character, and make healthier relationship decisions.
5 Signs Your Relationship Is Turning Into Real Love
Wondering whether your relationship is moving from chemistry to something deeper? In this video, I break down 5 clear signs your relationship is turning into real love through the lens of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
When They Pull Away: What It Really Means
Have you ever felt your partner pulling away and you can’t tell what’s really happening? Chip draws from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a proven approach that helps couples rebuild trust, heal attachment wounds, and rediscover closeness.
Tired of Shallow Dating? Build Something Real
Learn practical ways to cultivate real intimacy before marriage. If you’ve ever wondered, “How do I build real connection before marriage without feeling rushed or compromising my values?” this video is for you.
“We’re Just Roommates”
When your marriage feels flat and distant, it’s easy to think, “We’re just roommates now.” But it doesn’t have to stay that way. In this video, Chip Neuenschwander, LMFT, shares practical steps to rekindle connection. We'll include daily rituals of touch, conversation, and small moments of intentionality that bring back closeness and warmth.
When the Person You Love Tears You Down
Through a real-life story of a couple caught in a cycle of criticism and withdrawal, Chip reveals how to slow the moment down, see beneath the anger, and recognize the cry for connection hidden underneath the hurt.
How Listening Can Heal Your Relationship
Learn how slowing down, listening, and reflecting can transform moments of tension into deeper connection. My hope for you is to listen in a way that helps your partner feel heard and repair emotional distance and rebuild trust.
3 Steps to Listen Better: Even When You’re Triggered
You don’t have to react on autopilot when conflict hits. Join Chip as he shares three therapist-tested steps to help you regulate your emotions, stay grounded, and truly hear what’s being said. Perfect for couples, friends, or anyone who wants to communicate better when emotions are high.
Listening Isn’t Losing: A Guide to Better Conversations
I’ll share why listening feels so difficult and why it’s not a weakness but a powerful form of leadership. You’ll learn how defensiveness fuels the cycle of conflict and what it really means when someone says, “You’re not listening.”
How to Repair a Relationship After a Fight
Hurt someone you care about? Here's how to make it right. No clichés. No "I'm sorry, but..." You’ll learn how to move beyond surface-level apologies to build real trust and connection again. Whether you're dating, married, or navigating a friendship, this can be a real game-changer.
Stop Saying Sorry! How to Communicate with Confidence
Learn three common situations where an apology isn’t necessary and what you can say instead to respond with confidence. Whether it’s turning down an invite, clarifying a misunderstanding, or handling someone’s unmet expectations, you’ll learn how to communicate with clarity and self-assurance.
Turn Toward: Even Your Shoulders Can Invite Connection
Sometimes, the smallest gestures—like turning your shoulders—can invite deeper connection with your partner. In this video, you’ll learn how subtle shifts in your body language and responses can build trust, strengthen intimacy, and transform moments of tension into moments of closeness.
A Surprising Way to Stay Connected During Conflict
Instead of letting heated moments drive you apart, this approach encourages you to pause, embrace, and remind each other that your relationship is more important than winning the fight.
Understanding Silence in Relationships
Even though the question, “Why won’t you talk to me?” is a bid to reconnect, it can easily backfire. This video shares two reasons why and what may be going on inside the silent withdrawer.
Discover how to overcome the “Do-It-Later” voice that holds you back from achieving your goals. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by tasks, struggled with low motivation, or found yourself scrolling instead of working, this is for you.
In this video, I’ll reveal three practical strategies to make achieving success easier—without relying on the quicksand of motivation.
The Soul Mate Myth
Are you still searching for "The One"? You're not alone—two-thirds of Americans believe in the idea of soul mates. But what if this belief is actually keeping you from finding a real, lasting connection?
Is Divorce the Answer?
If you're leaning out of your marriage, this video is for you. Even if you feel overwhelmed by the idea of working on the relationship, discernment counseling provides a safe, pressure-free space to explore your options without any expectations.
Considering Separation?
Before making any major decisions, learn about Discernment Counseling—a unique approach designed to help couples find clarity on whether to continue their relationship or move toward separation.
